Gail (Shivani) lives in Watertown, MA with her 16 year old daughter, who has also recently begun to teach NVC! After studying NVC for several years, Gail attended and graduated from BayNVC’s Intensive year-long Leadership Program in 2006 – and has been passionate about NVC ever since!
She began teaching NVC in 2006, with the transformative power of compassion as the foundation of her practice and teaching.
In 2009, she co-organized the first NVC Mediation Immersion Program to be held on the east coast – facilitated by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater. This program continues to train mediators, and others who wish to use NVC to increase their ability to resolve personal and interpersonal conflicts. In 2012, she was a co-trainer in that year long program.
She is also co-organizer of the week long NVC Residential Intensive offered annually for the last 9 years in upstate New York as the NVC New York Intensive.
Gail has a private practice in the Boston area, offering private clients/couples NVC empathy and mediation. Her background before NVC includes 25 years as a line producer in film and tv production. She deeply values her spiritual practices of meditation and seeing humanity in all, and was drawn to NVC as a strategy that provided a way to bring this part of herself into her day to day living and relationships. She and her partner Paul Merrill very much enjoy teaching The Alchemy of Relationship workshops where they share how NVC has enriched their own relationship. To her, NVC is “walking the talk.”
You reach Gail via email: firstname.lastname@example.org
or you can call her at 617-393-3773.
As a child, when I voiced an opinion that disagreed with my parents, they would emphatically tell me “you don’t know what you are talking about.” After a while, I believed them. I decided to be obedient and silent to achieve harmony, and strove for perfection hoping to gain their acceptance. The upside --I became an (over) achiever and a leader; the downside -- when someone disagreed with me,I was flooded by fear of losing acceptance. As an adult, I had a limited repertoire of responses to conflict: guilt, denial, silent brooding, or anger. NVC taught me how to broaden my options to include more heart-centered and less clenched-fist styles of response.
My NVC learning path includes completing the first BayNVC Leadership Training in 2001, attending numerous residential and weekend retreats throughout the country, several of these with Marshal Rosenberg, the founder of NVC. In 2003, I began teaching NVC workshops in the New England area and hosted a weekly practice group in Boston for 4 1/2 years. In 2010, I completed the East Coast NVC Mediation training program and continue with the program now.
After 33+ years of management and training experience in both for profit and nonprofit organizations, I have recently launched Arcady Mediation, a consulting practice specializing in mediation services; customized conflict resolution coaching; and training for leaders of small businesses and nonprofit organizations. I coach leaders on how to have ‘challenging conversations’ in order to increase the levels of alignment, collaboration and partnership throughout the organization. As a speaker and trainer, I especially enjoy delivering highly interactive workshops designed to balance the challenge of skill development and personal growth with the support needed to take such risks.
You can reach me directly through email: email@example.com
Paul Merrill is a co-trainer at NVC Boston with Shivani Carroll. He enjoys sharing the NVC skills that have been supportive to their relationship. His NVC studies began in 2002 and he is a 2005 graduate of Bay NVC’s Leadership Program. Prior to moving back to Boston, Paul was a founding board member and co-trainer at Brooklyn NVC. In 2012, he co-facilitated Mediate Your Life’s East Coast immersion program at Essex MA.
He has been repeatedly invited to assist at the annual New York NVC Intensive, as well at NVC trainings at the United Nations, in Belgium and Poland.
What People Say
Gail and Paul are a wonderfully compassionate team. Their work is, in earnest, to help others understand and implement NVC. They do so through listening without judgment, helpful exercises and mediation. My husband and I owe an enormous debt of gratitude to Gail and Paul for helping us cultivate more empathy, love and forgiveness in our marriage.
Amazingly, our work with them not only enriched our marriage but also our relationships with co-workers, family members, and friends. We discovered that NVC is a transformative technique, and Gail and Paul are extremely gifted practitioners.
Gail and Paul bring two equally important things to their work as trainers: a concrete, applicable tool set, and a warmth of empathic presence. I really enjoy and appreciate the way their individual perspectives on the work seem to complement each other well when they lead workshops together!
I am in awe of your skills in helping us to move into a more empathic, more compassionate reality. I feel a renewed passion for widening and deepening awareness and the practice of such a change—and into policy. Can we petition for workshops in the Congress?
Many thanks for the excellent NVC session in Concord yesterday! Specifically, thanks for the professional and useful materials, and your expert presentation, as well as your thoughtful and thought-provoking facilitation. Especially helpful were your live demonstrations of NVC practice and techniques throughout the day.
Thank you so much for an awesome training session. This program could be truly life-altering. It was the first day-long workshop that I can recall having attended, where I felt more energetic afterward, instead of less. (Even after an excellent workshop, one usually feels tired; but not so after this one.) There was something very energizing and empowering, and yet calming, about all the empathy in the room.
Shivani and Paul are absolutely terrific teachers and coaches. They’ve been very involved in the world of NVC for a long time. They don’t just talk the talk, they walk it with beauty and grace. They balance clear and thoughtful skills-building, based on years of teaching, with genuine empathy. Not a treacly sweet empathy, but an empathy grounded in compassion, spirit, and lived experience.